Q: "so i came across your site and ive been scammed several times [etc, snipped, the usual] so i want to know if your legit and if you can take me serious than others and help me . if there is a spell you kno or ritual to grow taller to the height i wish too grow."
A: Sweetie, there is no such thing as a spell to make you grow taller (or grow your body parts, or be irresistible to any person ever and always no matter what, or to reunite lovers in 24 hours guaranteed, or to get a vampire demon lover, or to get a ring with a wish-granting genie in it, or any of that other sounds-to-good-to-be-true stuff you can get on ebay), and anybody who tells you that they can make you grow taller with magic is lying to you (and making six times the money I make, because I won't prey on people who don't know better). Magic simply does not work that way.
There ARE spells to work on your personal presence, your self-esteem, the way you carry yourself and the way you appear to
others, your sense of mastery and confidence, your physical health and strength, etc. If you are young and have not finished growing, there are ways you can focus on maintaining the peak of health and maximizing your potential. But if you are done growing, you are done growing. If you have a medical condition and/or are undergoing medical treatments to effect your physical stature, there is work that can be done to boost the skill and wisdom of your physicians and keep your own health and receptivity at top levels. Aside from that, you are looking for something that exists only in Harry Potter books and such. And you should run, not walk, away from anyone who would prey on your naivete and desire in order to profit on it by promising to do something that is in violation of the basic principles of magic.
Same family as an earlier one I got this month:
Q: "what oil will make me beter looking and grow my penis?"
A: No product will increase your penis size or physically change your features, and most of the people who advertise that kind of thing are better at writing advertising copy than casting spells. But there are spells that will boost your confidence, charisma, sex appeal, and aura of glamour, and many products in those lines, when used as body products, also are good for hair, nails, alluring scents, complexion, or stuff like that too, depending, and with a well-designed spell, will change the way you project yourself and the way people perceive you. Buying a bottle of oil itself isn't going to do it, but you could build a simple, "pre-night-out" attraction/grooming ritual with candles, oils, and powders with things in the Attraction, John the Conqueror, Samael, Rubeus, Kaliprix, Kiss Me Quick, or Follow Me Girl/Boy type families, depending on what you're after.
Q: I read a spell site that said no real spellcaster would charge for curse removal, so how can you charge for curse removal?
A: You read one person's opinion. If you want my opinion, here it is: what you read is judgmental, and frankly pretty ethnocentric and ignorant, and I say that no real, professional spellcaster who actually does this for a living would say something demonstrating such ignorance about the myriad magical/spiritual traditions that differ from - and probably significantly predate - their own tradition. I don't know where you read it or what they do all day, but I do this for a living, and if I worked for free, I would not be able to do any work at all; I'd be closing up shop with a quickness. The supplies I use cost money, no matter what type of spell I'm using them in, and I charge for my time and work, no matter what kind of work it is. I have to eat. That doesn't make me unethical and it doesn't make me "fake." I just don't work for free - I'm not independently wealthy, and I charge for my time and work.
Now, if you are a customer or client or have been reading for a while, you already know that because I am a worker who also makes/grows most of her own product/product ingredients, and because I come from a rural background where we mixed up stuff with what we could get, not what was for sale at the drugstore with a hoodoo label on it, I am able to accommodate all kinds of budgets. For clients who want to do their own spells, I do consultation sessions to coach them. For clients who want to make their own oil or bath or the like, I will do consultation sessions to coach them too, and the "coaching session" is a path I recommend for clients who are hurting for money, because if you need me to stick to things you can get at the grocery store, i will.[*] If you need to get uncrossed and you are broke, there IS help for you.[**] However, this is not the same thing as my doing a full-blown Uncrossing ritual for free.
But I DO work with folks. In fact, working with folks is what this is all about - being a professional worker is not about handing out "one size fits all" spells. If you write me and want free advice, that is what you are going to get - a general recommendation for an approach that may be helpful for what you describe but may not be given any number of unknown factors that I can't look at (or, honestly, read a long email about) without a consultation. But if you book a consult with me to talk about your case, you will get recommendations specific to your situation. I tell folks all the time, when they ask "what is the best spell/product for me," that the best spell/product is the one they can and will use properly and that the case will be responsive to. No point in me sending you some incense if you can't use it because you have asthma, or prescribing baths if you won't take them - nor in setting you up with Commanding work if the cards show that it will backfire, or with Reconciliation work if your case is hopeless. But the bottom line is I do this for a living, which is part of what "professional" means. [***]
Q: How do I avoid getting scammed by a fraud or unethical worker or reader?
Watch out for anybody who guarantees their work with a money-back refund. Watch out for anyone who promises a 100% success rate. Watch out for people who promise to reunite lovers within 24 hours. Watch out for people who offer to do spellwork that fixes your problems with no effort on your part. Watch out for anyone who offers to sell you a trapped wish-granting powerful sexy vampire genie for $100 that is bound to an antique ring that came from a voodoo priestess's house, or the pyramids in Egypt, or someone's dead great aunt who was a sorceress from Atlantis and/or related to Marie Laveau and/or the Salem witches, etc, and who passed it down to the favorite grandchild (etc). [Think - if you had that kind family heirloom, would you *sell* it? And if magic were as easy as buying an enchanted item and never having to lift a finger, well, I wouldn't be working :-) ] Watch out for someone who claims to be world-renowned psychic to the stars but who you can find no record of existence for that predates the one-month-old website.
Watch out for someone who never calls you on your shit. If they think everything you propose is a great idea, all the time, and never give you another perspective, or make an alternate suggestion, or let you know that what you want is going to be hard to do, or suggest that you may have had some role in your breakup but encourage you to jump on the "everybody is out to get me" pity-party, then you may not have a fraud exactly, but you do have somebody who will flatter you to get your money and who will thus be of limited assistance in the big picture. Now, it's possible that you may never get a reading or work done where this becomes an issue or where you'd even have a chance to see if this was happening - it depends on the nature of your case or issue. And I"m certainly not saying your worker or reader should try to make you feel bad or small. There is a real need for a reader / worker to be able to give you even bad news in such a way that it does not crush you or belittle you, or that is at least sensitive to the effects of the bad news. That is not what i mean. I'm talking about people who only ever tell you what you want to hear.
Watch out for anyone who judges all readers/workers of all paths by standards that are applicable only to a certain path or religion and says stupid things like "No ethical reader would ever recommend an uncrossing spell" or "no ethical worker would ever do hexing work" or "no ethical spellcaster would ever use animal bones" or "no real priest or priestess would ever charge money." Those are ethics belonging to a few people, not everybody, and they are profoundly ignorant about and dismissive of/insulting to traditional Southern-style rootwork as well as many religions of the African diaspora. How much somebody charges is not a reliable index of whether they are fake or not. Whether they post their birth name and a physical address is not a reliable index. Where they were born is not a reliable index. Whether they have a psychic grandmother is not a reliable index.
But there are quite a few things you can look for when searching for a reliable, ethical reader or worker. Here's a page from Lucky Mojo outlining some common scams. Here is the AIRR code of ethics, which I personally subscribe to as does every member of AIRR. While there are good workers out there who may not susbscribe to every item on these lists exactly as written, a worker with any real experience should be able to outline some sort of code of ethics or terms or principles for you if you ask, so that you know where they are coming from -- this may be outlined in a bio, or listed on an FAQ, or they may write about it less formally on their blogs or sites; the point is that you should be able to get some idea of where they are coming from somehow, either in something they've written and provide, or by asking them questions about how they work.
[*] This does not mean you can book a consultation and say "give me your formula for Fiery Wall of Protection" and I will go "Ok, here you are." It means you approach me with a list of what you have and I tell you what of it you can use to make what you want. Or you say "I need to make an inexpensive uncrossing formula with stuff I can get today, at the local market," and I will work with you, even if takes more than one trip to the grocery store or more than one email.
[**] Crossed conditions can be serious, and can prevent a person from getting ahead in all kinds of areas of life. I will work with you to figure out some way for you to get back on your feet no matter what your budget (but seriously - between this blog, luckymojo.com, the lucky mojo forum and other forums run or hosted by real workers, and the blogs of all my colleagues that I have linked to, it is a question of a little bit of time spent researching. You can get an uncrossing ritual with a few clicks, so it's not really reasonable to expect someone to do the research for you for free when you can do it yourself, you know? But if you come to me with an idea already in mind and want to run an ingredient substitution by me, and you can send me a short, direct email, then I am likely to respond without your needing a consultation --- if you are talking about a serious condition or emergency. But not every desire merits reduced rate of pro-bono work. If you are looking for Reconciliation, for instance, that is not an emergency - no matter how much you may feel like it is, sorry :-) Neither is lottery work.
[***] The other part, in my opjnion, refers to ethics and bearing, as in "conducts self and business professionally," but that is 1. another post, and 2. hardly cut-and-dried, not open to interp, and not disputed at all in all circles. Obviously the unnamed worker who said "no real spellcaster would charge for this" actually meant "no professional/ethical caster would, in my opinion and according to my code of ethics, charge for this." How one charges has absolutely no direct, causal effect on whether or not one is capable of doing effective spellwork, though how and what one charges can sometimes be part of a matrix of warning signs.
I actually do take pro bono work, but you have to either be an existing client who I already know, be referred to me by another worker that I know, or get accepted as a pro bono client by the AIRR Pro Bono Fund and program, which I participate in. The Association of Independent Readers and Rootworkers, or AIRR, has a pro bono fund to help clients in dire straits who cannot afford to undertake work that they really genuinely *need.* You can read more about it here. If you send me an email out of the blue saying "Can you help me for free," you are going to get a form letter giving you some links, but you are not going to get a personal response. This is not because I'm mean and ugly - it's because I get about 50 emails a day from people "with just a quick question." There is no such thing as "just a quick question" unless it is about work that is currently ongoing and contracted and therefore not you asking for free spell advice.
A *great deal* depends on impressions here; folks who write simply assuming I will read a long, involved email and reply to them with personalized recommendations are likely to try my patience b/c they give me the impression they have no idea how this job works and are not able to put themselves into my shoes for a sec. When in doubt, ask - a simple, to the point email saying "I have some questions about what product to use to get a promotion" will probably get a response saying "Great, go ahead." If the next email is short and to the point, you will probably get a friendly response making suggestions. If you send me a first email that is long and tells me the whole story about something and you want advice on that complicated relationship or job situation, you are going to get a form letter telling you how to book a consultation. Bottom line : check your assumptions before writing, that's all! and ask before sending me a long complicated email, because it would be a shame if you spent all that time typing it and I don't read it. I owe it to the clients who have booked consultations to get back to them ahead of new stuff, you know? And those first two question on this post? I get fifty like them every day. If you don't want to book a consultation, that's fine - I'll put your question in my queue of things to answer on the blog when I have a chance.